Thanks Purr! I appreciate you reading and commenting on my crazy story.
Amazingly, things are going extremely well. It appears that my divorce is busted, and I have my sweetheart back!!
Our motto: COMPLACENCY IS THE ENEMY!
We are being very conscious of what got us to the point where we had to separate. Complacency and boredom were the big ones.
We are one of those fortunate couples where a separation was needed, to get us back on track with what was important. In the book "Getting Back Together", this is discussed at length.
I am being very aware of what has worked for us, and what hasn't.
I am being attentive, but not smothering. I am being lighthearted, but not 'forcing' humour into every situation. I am balancing asking her what she'd like to do, with being decisive myself. I am not overdoing the "I Love Yous"...I think we're close to 50/50. I am still playing in the band, which gives her at least a night a week away from me.
She was picking out new accessories and furniture for the apartment over the weekend.
So...I think it's looking good for the future. We're back, baby!
