I think you need to go back and re-read AmyC's post to you on May 9th. I don't know how to put it here and at the moment, I don't have the time to figure it out.
Do not let his actions control your mood. Be grateful for the gift and the hug and let the rest go. You need to let him be. Remember--detach.
And do not say you don't know how to do that. You have been given many suggestions over the last few months on how to do just that.
I wish I had the magic answer for you dar, but I don't and no one else does either. I can empathize with you to a point because I have been where you are at, but honestly--don't you get sick and tired of being miserable? I did, and I guess unless you get to that point, nothing will change.
You can do this--you can be happy without daily contact with your H and without him telling you things you want to hear. If you can, go for a walk at lunch and just BE in the moment and enjoy nature--don't think anymore about your H!
