Refuse To Lose, Part VIII

[SirPrizeMe]

RTL, you and I are living parallel lives.
It's odd, eerie.

The false allegations, the jekyll-and-hyde personality changes. And through it all, you and me both are thinking, "I still love her" and you know what? everyone else looks at us like we are crazy.

Let me just say, I know how you feel and yes, it sounds nutty, and I feel exactly the same way. I want my kids but I don't want to destroy my wife to get them. Not only because I still! hold out some impossible hope that we will reconcile, but more because, as you said, I think regardless what happens, we still need to co-parent. I hate that word, by the way. I don't need my wife as an enemy, and it doesn't help the kids if she is my enemy.

About your daughter - I spoke to a therapist who said, your relationship with your children is defined mostly by the time they are 3 years old. By 5 or 6, it is semi-permanent, cemented. You are who you are to them, already, regardless how much contact you have with them, and regardless of what other people say about you to them. You've established yourself already. Best you can do now is have a great time with her, every time you are with her.


Take the high road, take the high road.
Years from now, you will look back on this time. How would you like to see yourself? Be that man.