You do see quite a lot of posts around the various boards where people comment about the WAS thinking the changes aren't genuine or won't last. I think that was just avoided in my sitch by the timing.
From my experiences, as you know, I agree with the 'tough love' approach - but if it had backfired on me I bet I wouldn't be saying that. I would still have taken the tough approach even if I had found out early in the A. I would rather be without someone than have them cake eat - to me it would just be letting them continually yank my chain - and I ain't letting any guy do that to me!!! However, I have the luxury of saying that from where I now sit......I am old enough now to know to say never say never about most things. Until you get to a certain position, you never REALLY know how you will act.
One thing I do feel is, that if you accept your S having an A and they know you will wait for them, why should they ever make a decision. Cake eating must just seem too good to be true sometimes.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
