There and Back, up and walking #1

[cat03]

oh sweety))))))))))))))))))) it must've been soo hard for you to have gone through that!!! I just thank God for the strenght He gave you to stop him.

I know in my heart he needs help, and that he is addicted to me (security) as much as he is to her (excitement? obsession?).

In the book 'not just friends' it mentions how the problem is not between the kind of women the W and the OW are, it is about what they represent, just like you've said you are the safer stable family icon, the ow represents thoughtless obsession, the craziness. MC told me that stbx told him how he could not relate to me anymore, that the values I represented, my qualities (normalcy, quiet safe family life).

It makes me so mad your h just keeps wanting to cure his unhappiness with getting in bed with you. How it must tear you to hear him say those things and feel his kisses. I'm so proud you didn't give in, you are doing so well honey!!! you let him have his sadness and didnt' burden yourself with a load only he is supposed to carry.

My 2cents: avoid at all costs to be alone with him, don't give him any chance to put a finger on you, it is hard enough to detach when the Hs are being @sses, how can you do it with him trying to be all over you? sounds like he just wants a release and resents you that you feel sex means more, that also boils my blood , grrr!

Yes, if he truly wants his M back he will ditch the ow and move heaven an earth to get you back, your h is sooooo much like my stbx, how he used me as his security blanket while he had a wild time with ow. They are weak, and we've done enough and more to try to fix our Ms, if they want back then they'll have to sweat it and fight tooth and nail. Nothing less can be expected from people who give the Waffle house a run for their money,.

And that song, wow!! i've heard it a million times and never understood the lyrics, how poignant! the lyrics are amazing.