Bring on the Rain - Part 2

[SueS]

Hi everyone-

Thank you for the Mother's Day wishes. I hope you moms had a good day.

The weekend was actually pretty good. One small issue with H. We drove all night Thursday night and got to H's dad's house about 4:30 Friday morning. We napped and then D4 and I got up, got ready and went to see my friends. I told D4 to give daddy a hug & kiss, as it would be late when he got home. He was going to visit friends too. We had a great lunch with my friends. We spent a little time with my FIL & then went to my SIL's house. SIL & BIL are also not getting along, so BIL didn't stick around the house very long and went to meet H to start drinking! Later that night, H & BIL came back to the house. H asked me if I'd take him to his dad's. I did, but let him go to bed & I watched tv. He passed out so there was no cofrontation. OHHHH, and H (drunk) snuck into the kitchen at BIL/SIL's to take a call from OW. I went out there & stood in his face watching him. He got really angry when I asked who it was. It was 11:00 at night. I doubt OW knows that I went with.

On Sat., H went to a baseball game & concert with his brother. D4 and I spent the day with my SIL. We had fun. We went to our nieces softball game, a communion party (SIL's family) & just hung out. It was just a good day. BIL & H got home very late & were both very drunk. H came into the bedroom where D4 and I were sleeping.

H: Do you want to go to my dad's with me?
Me: It's late & we're sleeping.
H: You don't want to be with me?
Me: H, don't do this now. Don't come into the room when we're asleep, you've been drinking & ask me questions like that.
H: Fine. You know this is why we're in the spot we're in now. (blaming it all on Sue again!).
Me: Please don't do this.
H: Fine. You made your decision. (H left the room).

I woke up Sunday morning to find H & BIL passed out in the living room. SIL said that she heard them still up at 5:25 am. They slept until after 1:00 pm. No "Happy Mother's Day" from either one. Nothing. The first thing H did when he got up was grab a beer. He had one. He and BIL joked about the rough night. Just made me sick. So, I ended up driving for the first 4 hours on the trip home. As always, D4 did a great job in the car. She's a wonderful traveler.

When we got home last night, H came into the bedroom & laid down in our bed. He started rubbing my back & told me it was for Mother's Day. It didn't lead to anything more, but it's just strange. I think it was a bit of him trying to keep his control. He knows what my SIL thinks about our situation & about him. Him knowing I spent the entire weekend with her couldn't have made him feel very comfortable. I woke up a few hours later to hear him clicking away on the computer.

Cute D4 story.........I always say to D4..... Guess What? To which she responds, I know, you love me. I tell her yes I do. The other day I asked her if she ever gets tired of me asking her that. She said no. I told her, good, because I don't get tired of telling you. She again said, mommy, I don't get tired of you telling me you love me.

So, I'm feeling pretty good today. I feel better about my situation than I had the past 3-4 weeks. I'm feeling more stable. I know H is a confused mess with other issues. I feel like I'm more in control.

Well, time to get back to work. Have a great day!

SueS