Jak, I know exactly how you feel about your MIL's care. At least your H appreciates what you have done/are doing and has told you (pretty good for a non talker! It will get harder before it gets easier, though. (((JAK)))
Im sure it will Mat. H has been kind of quiet the last couple of days. Thinking Im sure. Affectionate but withdrawn. Sometimes I feel the stress will just take over. Im trying to keep an even keel.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
No not the same set of parents. The boys belong to my youngest son and the girls are going to be born to my oldest daughter. Now my younger daughter I figure will have one of each. ( that is what I tell her anyway). Yes twins very much run on my side of the family. Im'e just glad they skipped me! THe boys tire us out. At least I had a good laugh today thanks.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Wow, so much going on. Keep taking good care of yourself - that even keel is so important.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
[/quote]You will have fun babysitting both set of twins at once! [quote]
Yoyo,
Don't know if I could handle them all at once. The boys are hard enough. Cute though!
Nik, Trying to stay on an even Keel. I was a little distant last night, H noticed and asked what was wrong. Told him nothing was wrong but, I stated that he had been quiet, as he has not said much. Every time i distance myself he just comes running with touches, ILY's thing is, the only time he says ILY is after sex. unless he knows Im really upset about something that had happened then i'll get one. I guess Im'e thinking that is the only time he feels connected. If it is I can't live like that forever. He says he is having trouble with connecting but, just how long can this go on. It's been months and months. He does have alot on his plate right now and i'll wait but, so do I.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
My h is the same way with the ily's after sex... ummm weird...
Although he does say it when we get off the phone too.
Its almost like the more you distance yourself, the more he wants you... its like a game.. we all play in now and again, but it does get tiresome. I know too well.
I hope you are holding up ok, I know you are completely stressed about all of the things going on right now.. remember to stop and take a break sometimes.. you will need to keep your strength up.
(((((hugs)))))
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Mine was quiet. My girls took me out for breakfast. Then I mowed the lawn visited H's Mom, Cleaned the house did laundry, Shampooed carpets. H got home from work and took me out to dinner. H was very attentive and told me I shouldn't have worked all day.
H's Mom is doing ok right now just her mind is getting worse. She turns the stove or oven on for no reason and insists she didn't and that scares me. My niece who lives with her so that she could stay home just had a baby and said it's like taking care of two as she has to really keep an eye on her.
Everything is pretty quiet right now which I guess is good. H's dad's funeral is this Saturday .
Tal, You are right, the more I do distance myself the closer he gets. I do think he does this to keep me off balance while he figures out what is going on in his head. Thing is that sometimes it works. He draws me in where he wants me so that he can feel comfortable. At least I feel he does. I do think he is scared that I will get sick of waiting for him though. I feel he knows that he wants me but, is still waiting for that epiphany to happen as far as those fuzzy in love feelings go.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
( that is what I tell her anyway).
