Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Wonderful news about your surprise party! That is wonderful! I bet your having fun looking at all the baby stuff you got!

On the tour. totally agree to NOT change the date. It's been set for a long time, he'll have to deal with the consequence. If the sitch were diff right now, I'd say maybe consider changing, but people have always tried to fix his screwups and he needs to deal with them himself. For some reason, I see you covering for him, or taking care of his mistakes in the past. I did it too, and so do a lot of us women. Hand that responsibility over to them to deal with.

And, IMHO, do NOT talk about how this makes you feel. I think on seldom occassion it is good for you to share your feelings, but I really don't think this is the time. Right now, to him, he is not with you, and IMHO he is not obligated to go to any of these things with you. I know that sounds aweful, and he SHOULD be there, he SHOULD be with you not her, but at the present time he's not. You've still got to let him go. He'll never have the chance to come back if you don't. Just act as if you've got someone else to go with you or that your excited to go and don't act like him not being there is any of your concern.

I'm still amazed that he even wants to go. I went with my 6 year when P to s3. and I'm was M to my husband. I think if we got P now though, that he might go. He really has changed, and I need to focus on that, and stop talking about the bad he did in the past. It makes me sad. and it makes me sad for everyone here when I think back to times like those.

Think positive, think about how close you are to seeing your beautiful girl. You guys will have a wonderful bond, especially since your breastfeeding. Only breastfeeding moms can really understand that.

on your hospital tour, that's what it is right? make sure you ask them if they take the baby out of the room or not. They didn't tell me, and I wanted my baby with me the WHOLE time, and they took him away over and over and over and wouldn't let me keep him. said that was their policy and the doctors had to check them in another room. I was livid. It ruined my whole experience there. So be sure to ask and talk about any expectations you may have. like, will they put an iv in you and you'll be stuck to the bed, or will they let you take a more natural approach to birthing, or will they give shots to the baby, or sugar water... um....that's all I can think of now.

fyi- on the shots...please research this. If you do plan to give shots, waiting much later is so much better, and limiting the number of shots given at one time as well, and never giving shots when a baby is sick at all.

there's my mommy talk for the day.