To say he is inconsiderate and thoughtless is such an understatement. You go way beyond 50% on these conversations. From this vantage point it seems like you do all the talking and he just agrees to some things and disagrees with others. But he's very closed and doesn't hesitate to hurt you and the kids for no apparent reason. Didn't you just give him a nice, thoughtful birthday? And this is what you get? Things aren't fair. No, he won't go to Retrouvaille. He knows that they will tell him that he is not fair, mean and selfish. You will not get change unless he faces who he is and how he acts.
