Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[mishka422]

LMG - The first time H left I told him he had to go tell our son that he was leaving and why. The second time he left I made him do it again. The third time I went in the room with him and he flat out told our son that he didn't love me anymore, didn't want to work on our marriage, and would NEVER come back again. Wasn't that special?

The cruel things he said out of anger in front of our son made me so crazy but I almost pushed him to it because I was so angry with him for leaving for the third time without even giving me a chance.

I'm so sorry your daughter is having to go through this at all but going through it at a pivotal time in her life makes it that much worse. Since she obviously understands some of what is going on, you will probably need to sit down together without your younger daughter present and talk with her. Both of you need to be there so she can ask questions as she needs to. Hopefully she will feel that she can. You will need to talk to your H before you talk to her to set down some ground rules for what will and won't be discussed.

With D7 you will need to keep it much more simple. The standard "mommy and daddy can not get along anymore and can not live together anymore. We are not going to be married anymore but that doesn't mean that we don't love you and your sister with all of our hearts."

I know this is not how you feel. I know this is all about H but this is the only way I can see to get the general idea to your daughter without getting into too much detail with her.

As we all do, I hope that this will not really be the end. That your H will get his head out of his butt and realize what he is giving up.

What have you been doing to be nice to yourself?