Thanks for the kind words. We had a nice time. Might have been nicer with H there but what can I do?
I called him and told him just what I thought about the TM. I mean he sends ALL his friends the same message but couldn't have bothered to call the mother of His child to say "have a nice day" So I guess my H has become a J also. How great! I know this was a backslide but I'm tired of the crap. I don't think my call made any difference to him though.
The more I realize it the more I know I have to stay away from him and his bitterness. Gosh I know what to do but not how to do it!!
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Crap so now he tells me he's moving out of his parents house tomorrow. I don't know what to say or how to support this. I told him "ok whatever" and he got upset that I wasn't nice and interested. I don't know where he's going to live or who he'll be living with. If I was nicer he would have "talked" to me. All I know is that he's not coming home and when he gets settled D will spend more time at his place and not with me. She's all I have in this bloody country. And now because of his bleeping decisions she has to be passed around. Poor kid.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Jen, Sorry you're having a bad evening. We've been S for almost 4 months and I still don't know where H lives. I haven't even bothered to ask him. I figured if he wanted me to know he would have told me by now. If you feel custody will be an issue, document the times H has taken D, the times you've asked him but he had other plans and when he's taken D but left her with his parents. Didn't he tell you, you could have full custody. My H said this to me right at the beginning but they often change their minds about things.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
We spoke over the phone about 30 minutes ago. He told me what part of town it's in but not who he'll be sharing with. I know it's nothing sexual or R related but it's obvious it's a female. If it was sexual then they wouldn't be renting a 3 bedroom apartment. He told me he'll tell me who he's sharing with soon. Said the lease is for a year. Him moving into an apartment is putting another nail in the coffin. It feels more over now. Of course he'll have to adjust to living with another person so I wish him luck with that!! AND he'll have to support 2 homes and 2 sets of bills at least until I manage to make some $ along the way.
He told me I'd have custody but he's also said that he wants her to spend longer times with him once he gets his own place. I'm willing to share weekends but I don't think it'd be in her best interest to spend a week with him the 2 main reasons are; I'm closer to her school and he works late so they'd get to his place later than bed time. She's only 6 and needs at least 10 hours of sleep a night. He's not too stupid though and knows whats in her best interest.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
