Put the burden on him. If he wants to fix his life, then he has to make the changes. Break off with OW. No contact. IC to get his head back together. And Retrouvaille for the two of you. Nothing less. He wants to go back to when he was desired by two women, and you were a mess. Don't let that happen.
If we all had Sara's wisdom and resolve, we would be much better off for it. You did do great, keep it up.
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Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread