Sorry to hear about last night for you Christa, I am going to give you a different perspective than JS did. Don't be hurt by what I am going to say but this is what I am reading into it.
Your H knew you would end up in this pub, he probably knew your family would end up with you. This was all a set up by him. He did what he did for one of two reasons and only one of the reasons. 1. He did this to make you jealous and see if you would come back to him, remember, you have been dark for a month so in his mind, he don't know what you have been doing, maybe he feels you have been seeing someone and is only trying to get back at you for what he feels you are out there doing yourself. 2. He did this to show he is moving on and wanted to show you on his terms.
Now, I know that detaching is suppose to be the best thing for any of us to do but it does not work in all cases. You keep up with my thread, you know what I am going through, my W told me the reason she served them is because we don't talk much anymore therefore she felt I was going to hold her to the May 1st deadline I told her about 1.5 months ago to let me know what she is going to do with our house, either buy me out or sell it. I haven't spoke of this since that one coversation as I was going to wait out a whole year before I persued any legal action to go forth in my sitch. Since I had cut all R talks off with her, and I thought this to be a R talk, she went forward with the L's.
Again, don't shoot the messenger here, I don't know what your H was thinking but I would almost bet money on it being one of the two scenerios I gave.
Sorry to see you are down right now, you have done so good, I agree, give yourself more time to think about what you will do from here. Ping
