Well, it's over. H told me today that he's done. Then when I told him he should just leave he has the gall to tell me that it's his day with the kids and I can leave.
So I sit alone on Mother's Day typing this in the computer center of the apartment while HE'S enjoying Mother's Day with our kids.
I will start a new thread in the Divorce forums when I'm up for it.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
OMG. That's horrible. On Mother's Day! He is a miserable and depressed person if the only thing he can think of to do on Mother's Day is be deliberately mean and hurtful to you.
I'm soooo sorry to hear about this. (((cw)))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I'm really sorry this happened. Maybe he is saving you from years of heartache while he waffles back and forth. The truth remains, this isn't over. It's never over til the divorce is final, and then sometimes it's not over either. I still think standing up for your needs is important to do. Perhaps he saw that as you taking control of the situation and he needed to shoot you down again. Being mean on Mother's Day certainly does shoot you down. Do what you can to enjoy yourself today. Tomorrow will be another day. You will be with your kids again.
It was low down and dirty and it most certainly shot me down. The rules of the game change now. What kind of a person does this this way?
Unfortunately, both my clubs and my bike are at the house, where I am not.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Wow. There REALLY must be something in the water in CA. First thing this morning, my H and I got into it with one another. On Mother's Day, of all days.
((((((((((cw68))))))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
WTF!!!I'm so sorry and shocked that I'm going to swear in Spanish of all languages...coño que bolas!!!
I can't believe him. And of all days. We don't even know you very well and we know you love your kids so much. How dare he tell you today and then expect you to spend Mothers Day alone without your babies. I want to kick his sorry a$$.
With that off my chest. I hope you feel at least a bit better tonight or tomorrow. Please continue to post here.
Remember CW, its not over til it's over.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Arrrgg! As if the holidays are not hard enough. I am very angry with your H. What kind of person? A selfish, sick person.
But, try to chill. Deep breath. If I have learned anything from these pages it is that it is rarely over. And often, it seems, that good things follow bad things. You can try not to be so effected by what he says. Think DB. Work on yourself. Connect with your kids. H has a long way to go and you can't speed it up. He wants it done? No problem. Let him spin his wheels. You can remain his best available option for as long as YOU are interested. He is a jerk today. He might be one forever. He might not. Let this Mothers Day be a corporate excuse for grabbing consumer dollars. Maybe next year it will be a day filled with love from your kids.
Good Luck, hang on. Be strong. (Or at least pretend to be, for now.) It will get better. Much better. Head down, eyes on the ball.
Me 41 W 39 d7, s4 M 13 Bomb ILYBNILWY November 28th, 2007
