I don't know what to say Christa. I am sorry for you and angry with your H at the same time. You know, my wife hurt me really bad and humiliated me as well as hurting my kids, but none of that would make me want to publicly embarrass her and I have no desire to hurt her. What would I gain from that? With that said, I hope your H was not setting you up for that but by him not speaking to you it is hard to imagine that he wasn't. How old is he, 22? I don't know your ages but he/that seems very immature and juvenile. I am so very sorry that you experienced that. Once again, I have been very angry with my wife but never would I even dream of something like that. I really hope it was not intentional. IF it was, I don't have anything positive to say about your H and DBing to be honest.
