I finally got out the words "if you need me to be the bad guy I can" and by golly that seems to have opened the floodgates. Quotes: She's leaving and someday I'll see what a great partner she really was. I'll go find my "get it all " person and that person can live with our daughter while partner will not get to do that, all because I won't accept what she has to offer (ie, really good committed roommates, financial stability, good parenting but NO SEX or commitment that that can be worked on)
I, of course want to throw myself on the ground and scream "don't cut off your nose to spite your face"....but my rational mind says the one big thing I did wrong was talk her out of leaving the very first time she said she was going, over 2 years ago. My heart is breaking, my mind is in a fog, I don't know whether to initiate any conversation...I'm a just getting by.
Happy Mother's Day to me. BFD.
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
