I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
((((((Kalni)))))) I think something is going to change when he get back from the soccer. I think he is about ready to decide. I hope he chooses wisely!
**Lisa, the biopsy came out, it's stage II. Many lymph nodes are affected. 15 out of 25 taken out. It doesn't sound promising, does it? I was actually surprised it wasn't already stage III granted he could not eat or drink anything before the operation. I am still optimistic. Am I wrong to be?
K- I was so relieved when I saw this. No, you're not wrong to be optimistic- stage 2 is relatively early and the prognosis is good for the tumour caught at this stage- I can give you the statistics if you'd like them, but I feel relieved that they caught this early; it's very rare to catch stomach cancers at stage 1. It's also good that they removed the lymph nodes, rather than leaving them in there- this is the optimal way to treat this type of tumour. Will your Dad now go on to a chemotherapy? If so, it may be worth considering a clinical trial if possible as there are some promising looking new therapies being tested at the moment. I can try to find details of which are ongoing in Greece/Athens if that would help. (((((K)))) I am rooting for your Dad, and you. This is not going to be easy on your Dad, but he sounds strong, like you.
Originally Posted By: Kalni
He said he wants to come home,
Fell off my chair! Excuse me while I get back on it again.
Originally Posted By: Kalni
he scared he hasn't changed any (while I have) and that that will take us back where we were. That's no news. But he was more concrete and talked about how the future might be. He said THERE IS NO ONE else. That he is so preoccupied with this he can't even enjoy a drink with his friends (or GFs if I may add).
WOW! So does this mean he realises he has issues he needs to work on? And is he going to do the work?
Originally Posted By: Kalni
She told me he has no guilt or he is not thinking about coming back because of his sense of "duty".
Brilliant- he actually wants to come back to the sunshine. Not surprising, you're one hell of a woman K!
Originally Posted By: Kalni
"No way. He is right before making a decision and if he comes back, I can tell you it will be a conscious and very well thought decision". (Amen!!!).
Roll on July! This is such great news and I'm so happy for you K! How are you feeling about it? Happy, ecstatic? Ambivalent? (Can you tell I'm trying to get my feelings out there?!)
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Wow Kalni, H "is thinking about coming home" - this is BIG news. Take it real slow and try not to have too many expectations. If you read my thread, you will find that my H has been waivering back and forth about coming home for weeks. This is very common with the WAS and extremely frustrating. It's really difficult not to get drawn right back in and get your hopes up. The time your H will spend away may be really good for your R. He may realize just how much he misses you. Hope you had a great day with your kids!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I think he said "he would like to come home but he is scared". You know what they say, delete everything before the "but" in a sentence. So "Amen" to him deciding, hopefuly he will make the wise for HIM decision.
I am not ecstatic about the news. He has been repeating this for a while now. I was happy he initiated the discussion with my C (she was pretty surprised too) and that although I thought we were drifting appart the last week, he is not. He obviously needs some "cave" time. And Lisa, yes he realises he needs to work on some things, he said he feels he can't change himself and that he realises it was both of us that were wrong, not just me. I doubt he will work on himself systematically.
C also told me that he has some issues with his family. They were considered to be very close and I believe he is disappointed in them cause they actas if they don't care about what he does. They have left him alone. Until this point he considered this respect. Now that he needs to decide and "wants" to try to come home, I think he expected some help.
K
Lisa, if you could, please try to find those details. The doctor said he should start on chemo after 45-60 days. Thanks
