Wow, Sally! It must feel good to hear him say all that stuff. And you are SO right to not give him the sex he came for. Because as soon as you do, all the rewarding stuff he says will stop. He will be satisfied and go back to his everyday life. The only chance that he will come around is to keep him wanting more. Put the burden on him. If he wants to fix his life, then he has to make the changes. Break off with OW. No contact. IC to get his head back together. And Retrouvaille for the two of you. Nothing less. He wants to go back to when he was desired by two women, and you were a mess. Don't let that happen. The cost to you is too great.
