my story adventures of a WAW!

[christarn]

here's how it went down....devistated,hurt angry and pi#t off is how I feel today to say the least...I really wonder if there is even a credit card or if it was all just a ploy???

I text msgd the H to tell him I would be in town around 6 and be there for a while, just text me and let me know when/where to meet and I pick up the credit card from him. He msgd me back and said ok. I was at my family reunion hanging out and having a good time and as of 10:30pm had not heard from him. at that point, the family said lets go to the local pub...where my family always goes after our shindigs(this small town has 3 pubs mind you, however my family prefers a specific one, and H knows this)so we headed uptown to the pub. I didn't see his truck or motorcycle there, so figured ok, go in hang out with family, should be good...oh was I wrong...walk in he is sitting next to some chick. I order a drink, put some money in the juke box, play some songs, chat with family. Proceed to take my coat and sweater off, get down to my "sexy shirt"!!! he makes eye contact with me, I turn around play more songs. Then I proceed to the bathroom, which I had to walk by him and the chick to get to the bathroom, come back by, chat with family a little more, look back at him...he's all making out with the chick!! I was not happy, to put it mildly!!! At that point, looked at my sister and family and said...headin back to pubs in my town...not putting up with his crap. So I left, cried the whole way home. He even went so far as to introduce the chick to my sister...what an as#!! So today, I am on emotional roller coaster. I am putting a minimum of 72hr rule into effect...but will probably be closer to a one week rule! Need some time to process all of this.

I truly feel it was a total ploy. I am thinking a few things here. One, I hurt his pride, and embarassed him publically by how I left him(he was on vacation, I hired a moving company to move me out of our home), two, he wants to show me he can be ok without me, three, he is trying to hurt me as much as I hurt him...which is sick and twisted, but for some reason, he is, and always has been about mind games, which is sick and twisted.

Any opinions, advice or two cents would be appreciated...as I previously stated, I am going to take a while and process all of this, and see how I am going to proceed. For now, I am still going to lay low, and quiet.

A good friend, who really understands most of the DB principles suggested an unemotional truce meeting...just kind of laying some things out on the table. I am not and won't be for a while at a point where I can do that without emotions. But I am thinking she may be right. Just to let him know some things I am feeling/thinking...I don't know. He's just not a typical case...to much emotional trauma from childhood....crazy!

hugs 2 all
christa