alot has happend over the weekend. My in-law's got my really drunk, H was home with our son on friday night. SIL had a long talk with H while I was out with his parents. She basically told him he is a shitty dad and needs to get his crap together and man up to his responsibilty. She said H was very hateful, defensive and she didnt feel really listened. FIL also had a talk with H that did not go well at all (they are super close) so I was very shocked by that. H stayed at our house friday night for the first time in probably six months because, yes i was drunk. Still if this would have been a month or two ago he would have asked someone else to stay and he would have left.
Saturday morning H woke up crying. Said he had a good talk with his sister and she pointed out a lot of hurtful things that he claims he has never thought about. Said he is going away for a week to get away from OW and when he gets back he wants to move home. He said he will live upstairs, or with family but he wants to move back to our town. (currently lives about 30 minutes away in nearby town) I told him we have a lot to talk about first and we will have to agree upon some rules. First he needs to be done with OW! He said he wants to start being a better father. I'm still very upset about him taking a week off of work, and still a little worried that he may have gone with OW. I snooped yesterday....listened to his voicemail and there was a message from OW saying "I love you". Now H has told me their relationship is not like that anymore and they are just friends so wonder what that was about. On the other hand he did tell his sister he does not love OW but is having a hard time getting away. SIL said when he talks of OW now it's nothing like it used to be.
So the rollercoaster continues I guess. I would love for him to move home, but I dont think we are ready for that. I still dont think he is completely commited and i'm afraid it will really set us back. I'm not sure what the right answer is for us. I'm afraid he will still do whatever he wants and come and go as he pleases...I dont want that. I also dont want him to have any contact with OW, he told me has hasent called her a a couple of weeks but I dont believe it. What to do, what to do????
