Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

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Thanks Tomato, ST and Nik

ST you are probably right about H and buying something for myself. He always bugged me to spend money on me, or go shopping for clothes. I just liked putting money away for another time.

So, I need some advice. H and I have a Maternity Tour set up for the 18th. We've had this planned months in advance and over the last 2 weeks he's asked me at least 4 or 5 times when it was. So, last night, he calls and asks me AGAIN. I tell him it's the 18th a week from this Sunday. He asks if I can change it. I tell him that the next one on a Sunday is 3 days before my due date and that is too close for comfort. I ask what, is something wrong? He tells me that he has other plans for that day that he's already committed to. I remind him that he committed to this tour months ago. He says, "I know I just forgot". So, I'm pretty pissed right now. This is a tour of the facility and the pre-admission stuff. It makes me mad that he used the word "committed". He committed to our M and he committed to starting a family. Both of which he has NOT honored his committment. So, what do I do? Do I express that it makes me upset. Or do I just say something like "It's on the 18th from 2-4pm. If you can't go, then I will just go it alone." And, act as if it's no big deal? I just think it's pretty crappy that he is going to this "other committment" and not the one he made to me. So, not sure how to act. I left the conversation with "I'll take a look at the schedule and see if there are any other classes we might switch to and let you know when I get home." I didn't call him when I got home, nor did I call him today. There is one more class on a Wednesday night and he would have to switch his schedule around to attend. But, should I even change the original appointment or just leave it as is and let him make the decision. Which, I'm sure, will NOT be the one I'M hoping for. I'm just trying to remain calm and not pressure. But, on the other hand I feel like he's not having to account for his commitments he's made to me.

Advice please.