I'm glad to hear from you. I'm not sure what to do w/ all this. I'll talk w/ my DB coach on Wednesday and see what she says about the desposition. I'm deposing my W to make sure I don't ruin my chances at getting 50/50 parenting time. I'm torn b/c I don't want to put her through it, but on the other hand, if I don't and then lose 50/50 time, I'd never be able to forgive myself. It is tough.
As for the face-to-face conversation, my DB coach says I need to have as little contact w/ her as possible b/c she is so angry w/ me. Thus, I'm afraid that too may be out, however, I'll see what she says about the whole thing on Wednesday morning.
D and I had a good weekend. Today we went to lunch and shopped for a Mother's Day gift for W. D has been asking me for the last two weeks about getting her a gift, so I took her to Target today and D picked out two bracelets and a necklace (the $10 a piece kind - don't think I blew big bucks -- I'm dumb, but not brain dead. She then chose an Ariel gift bag and a SpongeBob Mother's Day card. She filled out the card w/ her name, the names of our dogs and cat and then put Mom on the envelope. I did have to help her w/ the spelling, but the printing was all her. She also decorated the inside w/ pictures, so I think W will like it. She can take back the stuff if she'll never wear it, but they were 100% chosen by D.
On the way home, D wanted to call W and tell her all about watching "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium" this morning. W asked to talk to me and said "when did you get the rocker fixed?" (I had her grandmother's child rocker re-caned and gave it back to her last weekend). I told her I had found a place and since I'd been meaning to fix it for the past year and a half and b/c I knew it was important to her, I just went ahead and did it.
She was very greatful and thanked me a few times. They were sincere thank yous, so that was nice. I did it b/c it was the right thing to do and it would be D's in the future. However, it is nice to be thanked for it too. It has been in her trunk all week, so that explains why she hadn't mentioned it to me. I'll admit, I was a bit disappointed not to hear from her about it at first, but then I lowered my expectations to ZERO and forgot about it. That is why today's thank yous from W were able to be welcomed as an unexpected gift. I'd really given up thought of hearing anything at all from her, so it really was unexpected.
D and I then went swimming and then back home to get ready for the drop-off to W at 4:20 today. I gave W the DVD player she asked for and some pictures of D from the Princess party D went to last weekend. She looked so darn cute I thought W would have loved to have seen her, so I made duplicates. Oh, well. W thanked me and I left.
I called for D at 7:27 and left a message for her. W called back at 7:47 to let me talk w/ D for a brief spell. I told her to tell our mutual friends hello for me and was glad to hear that D was having such a great time. They'll enjoy the evening and day tomorrow and it will be nice for W and D to be together on Mother's Day.
I'm still planning on sending a quick note to W's mom tomorrow for Mother's Day and I'm not sure if that will upset W or not. I would have done it regardless, so I need to stay consistent w/ who I am and not lose sight of that throughout this whole thing.
I went to the end of the state baseball final today only to see our team lose 4-1. After that, I came home and grabbed my clubs and hit balls for the 1st time in I don't even know when. Needless to say, I didn't hit them very well, but the main thing was I was out doing something strictly for my benefit only. I came home and grilled up some chicken and I'm going to be heading out shortly to meet up w/ some people for a few drinks. It will be good to get out and do something other than sit here alone. I'm actually GALing today!
Well, I guess the good news on my DB front would be my GALing today and the fact that my W was very nice to me (she was also very pleasant on the phone tonight when she called back for me to speak w/ D). Maybe my act of getting her grandma's rocker fixed softened her for the time being. If I can keep it up, I'll obviously love it, but for now, I'm not going to get ahead of myself and just enjoy the fact that she was nice today, that I had a wonderful time w/ my D, and I'm GALing tonight.
I'll be looking to catch up w/ everyone's threads tomorrow when I'm here in the afternoon.
I hope all is well w/ everyone and I would have checked in, but I didn't want to take away time from being w/ D.
Ok, that is it for now. I'll keep you all in the loop w/ what's going on here.
