Let's just say that God takes care of His own people. Suffering is part of the Plan God has for His people as well.
These are very dangerous words in my opinion.
SF, you know, I hope, that I think you are one of the most solid people I have met on this board. You are steady and consistent, and your faith has been your rock through all of this.
I posted just the other day that I supported you and your approach because I felt you were at peace with it.
When your husband dropped the news that he was still sleeping with the other woman, you were NOT at peace. And quite frankly, you should not have been.
In my humble opinion, your husband is playing the spiritual/intelligent/misunderstood card with you in order to continue this lifestyle that HE has chosen to lead.
I do not believe that God, at His whim, chooses for us to suffer. I do believe that God will allow suffering to be part of our life if our actions have led to the suffering. Your husband is suffering, if he is indeed suffering, because he has for the past two years made decisions that hurt his family terribly.
Your son, and the problems he has, can be attributed to the behavior of his father. In fact, his fathers reliance and closeness to him has caused your son more problems than they have helped.
Your daughters have suffered from having a father abandon them, and from having a father treat their mother in a disgraceful way. They are learning that if they are treated like this in the future, they should just take it on the chin, because that's what God would want them to do.
Our faith is terribly important and terribly personal. But it's possible to hide behind our faith as an excuse for truly dealing with the situations that confront us in life.
I'm not in any way whatsoever suggesting that you should give up on your husband or marriage. QUITE THE CONTRARY. I'm suggesting that it's time for you to do MORE than just allow him to continually bring destruction to your family.
God is not happy with your husbands decisions.
And yes, He is quite likely trying to make that clear to your husband.
But that doesn't mean that you need to sit back and do nothing while this work is done.
Sorry for speaking my mind. Please tell me if I am being offensive and I will stop posting.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
