My spouse told me he'd been unhappy for a year, two years, five years, that the 90's weren't that good, that he'd been unhappy for 25 years. Each day, his level of dissatisfaction increased.
What my family told me was that he'd checked out years ago, most probably frustrated by my withdrawal via the internet. When I left it and fully recommitted to the family, he only seemed to get angrier. The more I tried to be the best for myself and the family, the more he sabotaged what I did. At first he seemed to like me being back, then he'd do and say things that would undercut my growth and progress.
He let go of me as a wife years ago. I just didn't know I no longer had a husband.
