It's funny... recently I felt the wellspring of love within me for my husband. It radiated through my whole being. I couldn't believe how strongly I felt it.
I felt I should wait... just wait right now, regardless of what he's doing.
But when I approach him in my mind, he's closed, black, rigid, gone.
I'm waiting for something that's not there... but I'm waiting, even as part of me moves forward.
Well.. the only question I have for your little voice is.. Why would he want to D when he has said he won't? I could see it if he was trying to keep you around for Beaver time.. but he's not.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
My spouse told me he'd been unhappy for a year, two years, five years, that the 90's weren't that good, that he'd been unhappy for 25 years. Each day, his level of dissatisfaction increased.
What my family told me was that he'd checked out years ago, most probably frustrated by my withdrawal via the internet. When I left it and fully recommitted to the family, he only seemed to get angrier. The more I tried to be the best for myself and the family, the more he sabotaged what I did. At first he seemed to like me being back, then he'd do and say things that would undercut my growth and progress.
He let go of me as a wife years ago. I just didn't know I no longer had a husband.
Because he can't decide what he wants, he will feel pressure from his promise to me, to come back with a decision and he will go ahead just to ease his mind, no more thinking, let the Ls do it.
Then he will be coming around the hosue just as he does now and will make me look bad when I will (because I WILL) set new boundaries. He will throw a major fit when he will first hear I am dating someone (hopefully the 27yr old who owns a Porsche) and we will have drama time for a couple of months... Then it will be all over... That's what I see. Not quite sure yet, but that is what I think most probable. I didn't call my C to find out what they talked about. I will in the morning. I am curious
I agree with Forest! When is your H going away and coming back Kalni? May and June are very significant strologically. I was just reading a detailed article about it and this line was in the opening paragraph "These months begin a new Saturn phase and prepare us to receive recognition for our courage and perseverance since September 2007."
So there you go!
My timing is the same. BF shut down in June (end May?) and never came back to me emotionally and has been gone 5 1/2 months the same. It feels like a long time doesnt it.
I'm going to keep waiting too. And hoping he manages to open up at some point. So your H told you he was going to make his decision then?
I'm knackered again, but you are still going strong and its 3am there!? We shuold both go to bed right NOW and sort out this wierd body clock problem! Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
He told me himself the other day, I want to go to the soccer tournament and my plan is to come back with the decision... The tournament will last, latest 29 June, for Greece probably until 21-22nd...
