Refuse To Lose, Part VIII

[AliSuddenly]

Hi RTL,

I've been reading, but wasnt sure what to say to you lately, its all so depressing isnt it? Your W is totally out of order for telling a 4 year old she is leaving Daddy because she is scared of him. Seriusly, what is wrong with your W? Dont tell your D that ! Make something up, lie! Talk to her when shes older and you have a better perspective and shes old enough to understand! And...for her to have the audicity to text you saying D was pretty cut up about it in the evening... well its your own stupid fault for putting the idea and fears into her head !???

You said I wish I didn't love my wife. It would be easier to hate her right now. ... well, thats surely the same for alot of us. It would be so much easier to wake up and no longer care. It amazes me how much my love has endured, despite the continuous wall of "no regret" and a separation of 6 months. I guess thats commitment for you.

I hope you have a great weekend with your D.

Its a tricky one, this balancing the deposition and fighting for your D with not antagonising your W and DBing. I guess she has forced you to take this action? Could you try talking to her one last time, as resonable adults !?? Instead of all this texting and expensive lawyer action? Could you ask to see her in a neutral place of her choosing for a chat? Offer she can have a friend, or her mother there for moral support if she feels vunerable around you? Make it super easy for her and hard for her to say no? Say its in teh interests of your D and building a harmonious R to be able to discuss issues relating to your D?

Your W is behaving in ways that surely arent healthy for her D.
Keep on keeping on, you have been through such a tough time,
Ali x