my H has been "gone" almost a year now. It sucks but I manage with a little help from my friends & family (here and RL).
The six weeks scare me cause he SAID he will decide what he wants. He SAID he will have an answer for me. Him being so far away, makes it a bit harder because it will feel as if I will really have no "influence" on him. Which of course I wouldn't have even if he was here, but you know how the brain works. I see a DEADLINE flashing!
It amazed me as well after he left and I calmed down how everything went back to "normal". Everything but my insides. There have been times when I want to scream to my kids, my family , my friends "you are all sleeping calmly in your beds and I am fighting still for my life". It doesn't work this way. They know but nobody can change that but me and him.
Yes I want to see the jewelry, tried in the past too...
sometimes when I read posts at the "piecing area", I remember the "watch what you are wishing for, because you may get it" quote. It scares the h$ll out of me.
Women among them pretty often are very mean and harsh. It's a completely different world there with the Rs between female friends. What she saw and was cranky about, in her head, had no similarities whatsoever with your R.
It dosen't stop.. You sleep better. You eat better. You are happier.. heck just read my posts from then to now. Its easy to see. Have I really changed that much.. yes and no. I think it makes you smarter.. maybe thats just me.. who knows. I still thank her for doing what she did.. it did bring us a bit closer. Heck even J commented on it last night.
But what do I know.. I am still a Newbie.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Gone as in out of the house? Checked out of the marriage? Not there? Ouch!
I read a book called "Blink".. that people make up their mind, intuitively pick up things in the blink of an eye, but don't realize it. I used to think everyone had the answer within, it was finding the right question that was hard to figure out.
What do I know? When my spouse dropped the bomb, I knew that being a family, keeping the marriage, being bound to each other was the right answer for me. I just never realized it was my passion.
Take care of yourself, Ms. Kalni... find time to sleep, eat, love your family, find time for yourself. Slow down, walk away from the computer, take time to hear the beat of your heart. Take time.. you are loved.
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Yeap!! I think that he will come back with somekind of answer. My gut feeling tells me it will not be the one I would like. My gut feeling also tells me, he will not support his decision to the end. I believe I will soon become a DB site dinosaur.
