I think you are going to be fine. In the next couple of days just continue to concentrate on yourself - do things that make you feel good about you. It is important to look good when you meet. Maybe a 180 for you would be to drop a line like "Gee do we have to talk about this R stuff, I dont want any pressure I just want to have fun" (???) Might be a bit of a 180 and take the pressure off H. You could act as if you are so over the whole drama of the R and would rather do something happy and light instead of a big deep and meaningful talk? Suggest doing something instead of just talking, and then subtly keep changing the subject if it starts to touch on R. Focus on you being a safe place for H to be around.
You will be great! And its good to remember that you didnt cause this and there is not much you can do to fix it, it has to come from within him.
