Cake eating or progress?

[Dom R]

Argh.
I am in extreme, beat-myself-up mode.

you shoudnt be.

you made some very reasonable assumptions.
He should be more apologetic. Even someone "Just dating you", should be more understanding. They should not be playing the victim.

As far as hiding feelings go.. i think the guideline is to hide them, when they wont do any good.

in contrast, I think you are in a situation, and with a person, where showing them, would actually do you good. But hey... find that male professional C for the best opinion on that, i think.