Wandering Poster - Fifteen!

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Jeff.. wow, well sounds like you do do alot around the house. Its interesting what you say about your Ws needs seem to be a moving target, I read that and thought.. shes never happy. I bet you could be vacuuming, whilst polishing the floor with cloths under each shoe and dusting with your spare arm and she still wouldnt be happy.

I'm wondering if whatever you do would make no difference as surely, it isnt just chores and tidiness that make her soul sing? Maybe she just IS unhappy. Its easy to put the blame on little things and its classic in woman (I said this before) to focus on the house and tidiness and cleanliness and try and control that environment, but its just a mask for whats really causing the unhappiness.

Again, I say.. why dont you just ask her? Whats the worst that could happen? Shes already said she wants to move out and she hasnt slept with you for 3 1/2 years! Do you think she feels you dont care because you circle each other without any real communication? Or did you already try asking her on threads 1-6 and she wouldnt answer, and I just missed it!? Sorry if I did.

I agree with the others, the combination of getting your health checked, doing yoga, going to C and getting on the ADs as well as giving up an addiction to coke is fantastic. You are doing more than she is to address the situation.

Ali xxx