Cake eating or progress?

[Trixi]

Bill, I appreciate you chiming in

Having no evidence, he will deny, get pissed with you for (a) checking up on him, and (b) not believing him when he said you were exclusive, and (c) falsely accusing him of bad things. He will then get pissed with you, tell you this is not working out, and TRULY put that match profile to work.

Um, yeah, I think I accomplished that last night.

Since I do still love him and want to eventually reconcile, I am not ready to pull the plug without hard evidence.

But our job when they are in la la land is to focus on ourselves, try to keep interactions positive without debasing ourselves in the process, and move forward with OUR lives.

Yeah; that's what I need to do.
I was so happy about his movement towards me, I started to take things for granted and make assumptions.

I just hope I can get things back onto Path 2. (Dom is probably cringing at this idea.)

I feel like there were little itty bitty seedlings starting to pop up and I thru a big piece of plastic over the top of them and now they are dying. I need to rip that plastic off and get some sunlight on those seedlings.

Any ideas on how to undo the damage done last night? (I am assuming he told me the truth and is now ticked off.)

oh: ps: as far as professionals go... maybe you need to find a different counsellor. your current one hasnt helped you much, it seems?
(maybe you need to find a male one, who can better understand your H!!)

Yes, it probably is time for that.