Thanks for the replies. Yes asset division has been taken care of - 50/50 and no entitlement to my pension. The house, when it sells, will be split 50/50. Custody is also 50/50. No maintenance payments. British immigration law is very tough. They will not allow him to get married here. He will have to go back to Iran to do that. If she is crazy enough to go with him, Miss independent will have to wear a Burkha and stay in the women's quarters. I don't understand why she is so angry with me though. I keep asking her to relax. She hasn't toldpeople at work. We used to teach at the same university until I moved to one in the city over a year ago. So when my former colleagues contact me, I have to pretend that everything is ok. I have agreed ground rules with her today in relation to co-parenting. She is always on the defensive assuming that I am trying to tell her that she is not a good parent. She spoke to me earlier and somehow started talking about why she thought the OM was nice. She said that while she used to visit him in detention she was under a lot of stress and he was the only one who used to listen to her. She considered it as a form of escape she said. I don't recall her being stressed during that period! It is interesting that she keeps talking about how it happened indirectly when I always remind her that we agreed not to talk about our private lives. Anyway, my new woman friend will be here in half an hour. We will have dinner, go to the local pub for a drink, then come back to chill out in the house. Have a good evening everyone.
