My first post didn't go over so well, so feel free to tell me to piss off if you'd rather not have my advice.
The way I see it, you have two courses of action you can take right now.
Both of these courses of action I am basing on the recent trip which went basically pretty well, and his proclamation that the two of you are "dating" exclusively.
Path 1
You take the Dom R hard ass approach. Basically you assume, through the circumstantial evidence you have gathered, that he is pulling away and once again pursuing others.
This eventually leads you to act odd around him, he notices it, he calls you on it, and you spill the beans on all your assumptions and conclusions.
Having no evidence, he will deny, get pissed with you for (a) checking up on him, and (b) not believing him when he said you were exclusive, and (c) falsely accusing him of bad things. He will then get pissed with you, tell you this is not working out, and TRULY put that match profile to work.
Path 2
Lacking any hard evidence that there is something bad going on, you will continue to believe that you had a great trip, reconnected a bit, and that the match profile is something he had for awhile and in boredom decided to look at again.
You continue to assume that you two are dating. You continue to work your way through the beginning stages of a courtship, since that's what this dating period is all about anyway.
You recognize that there will be times when he will pull back a bit - after all, he's not done cooking inside if you know what I mean.
You wait until confronted with clear, hard evidence of cheating before accusing him of such and breaking off the relationship.
Meanwhile, you take care of yourself, try to find the good in the relationship today compared to where it was when things were really bad, and continue strengthening yourself by maintaining your own social schedule and activities.
I guess it's pretty clear which one I suggest.
And hey, I could definitely be wrong and he could be playing you again. I guess I just wonder why he would even bother. Why wouldn't he just say, nah, not interested, and go find someone else?
I don't like the comment on the bus either. But it's simply more indication that he's still not right in the head. He's still out there in la la land.
But our job when they are in la la land is to focus on ourselves, try to keep interactions positive without debasing ourselves in the process, and move forward with OUR lives.
Just my humble opinion.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
