Mishka's- new thread/new tude - H who?

[missmyfriend]

I pray to find the courage to step out in faith that God will put me in the right place. I'm obviously not comfortable with any decisions I make for myself since I made such a horrific mess of my life when I thought I could do it on my own.

Sorry I have been away, for the most part, from the board and reading your thread. What you are going through is important to me and to many others here. I have been caught up in work a lot lately and have not kept up with everything.

Your challenge with finding the right church group to belong to is understandable. It can be challenging.

You sound like you have the same problem I do. I am afraid to get involved with a group because I may not either like it or it won't suit me, so I have a tendency to back away from making a decision because I dont want to let anyone down.

I have prayed that God will bolden my heart to not worry about such things. I recently offered at my church to call people who are going through challenges. Will I be good at this? I have no idea. I felt compelled when I read about it in our bulletin and decided to sign up. Trust me when I say that is not what I would normally do.

I trust that God will have me do what He wants me to do. If it is not working out, He will either give me a signal to move to something else or He will tell me that He wants me to work through my concerns. It is up to Him.

It sounds as though God wants you to get involved in a church group. I would not concern myself whether it will end up being the wrong group until that happens. If it does, then seek out a new group or maybe you will be the one to start the new group at that time. Who knows? God?

About your H sleeping a lot and switching to working nights, I would say that he is very depressed and that working nights is going to only make his depression worse. Working nights is hard on anyone but those that are depressed get worse.

My W takes medicine now for depression and for blood pressure. The kids do not know about the depression medicine. Unfortunately she works nights but it is better than the place she worked before. My W spends a lot of time sleeping now and at home (by herself?).

I believe many of the MLCers have a root cause of some sort of clinical depression. I have said this before that MLC is aa sympton or outward signs of depression. That is why I don't really classify MLC as a mental illness, IMO. However, depression, is listed as a mental illness. Some sort of treatment is necessary, whether it be medicine and counseling. Personally, I have seen people deal with most forms of depression with gaining a closer R with God. Some people require medicine as well if it is a chemical (biological) depression although I do believe God can heal that as well.

The proper ADD medicine may help your husband become more "balanced" again. For my son, it made him more depressed and angry.

Thinking of you Mishka!