Fantastic post, Sandi. I took a hell of a lot from your last 16 page post to CBK a couple of weeks ago and I will take a lot from this one as well. Would love to have you check out my sitch in Infidelity. Always looking for advise and don't mind the 2x4's.
CBK, like Sandi, and even I said yesterday, its time to man up. Friendly advise from another friend to me that I always think about. My WW wants a masculine man. I have always been the professional, the studious, button down type. That is my 180. Gonna man myself up. Remembering the manly qualities that I had forgotten I had. Not being a jerk or a fixer. Just a man. A desirable man.
Your WW keeps seeing the emotional side of you. Don't let her see this. It is not what you want her to see. Remember WTF. Friends for now and stop focusing on her. I know it is hard to do. You can tell by my thread that I'm not very good at it either.
You have to do it for yourself. Actions, not words.
Just like WW smoking. I started smoking just to have more things in common with her. I had always told her she should stop, but she hates being told what to do. I realize this now. Recently, I told her I was quitting cold turkey. Now what? Next day, she is telling me how she is slowly gonna be cutting back and quitting herself. I thanked God.
Not sure if I just started rambling. Sorry.
Actions. She may follow.
Last edited by hopeful4her; 05/10/0804:10 PM.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
and I will take a lot from this one as well. Would love to have you check out my sitch in Infidelity. Always looking for advise and don't mind the 2x4's. 
