Cake eating or progress?

[Trixi]

We just had a R talk when we returned from Costa Rica. So, that would have been about a week and a half ago.

He said that he didn't know where we were headed; he was taking things day by day; he likes the improvements we're making; I (me) am in a lease until Dec (in other words, it lots of time to decide); there are parts of being single that he likes (like being able to just do what he wants, when he wants); he finished his comments with "I don't think this is the right time to discuss this. We need to get back to "real life" and see how things go."

So- now it's 10 days later. He is not adjusting to real life very well. He is irritated with my "impatience".

What do you mean by "a professional"? My counselor (who has spoken with both of us) has NO idea what he is doing. They were never able to figure out why he wanted to leave in the first place and she is quite perplexed with his continuing behavior.

I know what part of me problem is- as of last Sunday, we had decided we would to the following this week:
Go out Friday night, he would stay over
Go hiking SaturDAY
Go to Cirque SaturNight lol
He would stay over


On Tuesday, I IM'd him to let him know I would be near his work the following day. He says "Cool- lunch then?" We schedule in lunch between his meetings. So, now I have Wednesday to look forward to, too. I'm a happy girl. Then Wednesday morning, it all starts to unravel. He calls, someone booked another meeting during our time to meet so, sorry, he can't do lunch.(and my schedule only permitted meeting during that one hour.) Then he says "It's supposed to rain saturday and I have stuff I want to do around the house anyway, so no hike this weekend." Now we are 'down' to Friday night and Saturday night. And then last night he took most of Friday from me.

As of this morning, I don't know that a R talk is going to get me anywhere good. He is in a bad frame of mind; I am in a needy frame of mind; both our perspectives are skewed and I am concerned that we're becoming polarized when it's not necessary.