BE STILL, QUIET, PATIENT, AND DARK

[cagzmom]

Trusting - you are DOING EXACTLY what you are suppose to do.

NO credit to your H. See this is where we (LBS'rs) get messed up. Our h's know our buttons. Of COURSE he admits his life isn't great BUT WHAT ACTIONS is HE taking to better HIMSELF!!

My example? MY H. THE BEST manipulator on the planet. His montra "my life is hard, my life is sad...etc etc." That is what USED TO PULL me in. Have you guys not heard of cake eating? WHEN THEY ARE DOWN they come back and try and "Feed" off of what was safe and pure and good....I AGREE wtih what trusting is doing.

Dark means she is leaving HIM ALONE to handle his issues. SHE IS NOT HIS answer. HE HAS TO FIND IT. He HAS TO FACE the truth of what he has done....

Why should she thank him for admitting what is obvious? Seriouslly? Maybe if he told her he was sorry for hurting her - for having an affair, for walking out on his family...yes THEN she should...ALL HE DID WAS SAY "HEY MY LIFE SUCKS..."

Acknowledge - be kind - thats all she can do. Stand? You stand by moving forward, making yourself a better person. By GROWING PAST them and letting them come to terms with stuff. IT ISNT OUR JOB to fix them. THEY HAVE TO find thier way through...

sorry just my $.15 --- I have "watched" trusting for over a year...she has followed DBing to a T. I truly believe that if GOD works on these MLC'rs and they CHOOSE to listen - there is NOTHING we can do to stop reconciliation...Just as there was nothing we could do about them walking out the door...it is ALL ON THEM...not us.