The decision is made

[ACJ]

Is the £15.00 worth this aggravation and stress to you?

Not quite sure where you got this figure from Naej. My excess bill was £105 and the cost to change locks is more than that.

I believe you can put a password on your phone to "lock it",

Yes you can put a pin number on so that mobile calls can't be made. Unfortunately it also stops you making national calls and as my parents don't live locally that throws up another set of problems. We did this once before but b/c we had a digital phone at the time all the kids had to do was press last number dialled and they got the pin number! So it's not as fool proof as the telecommunications people would have you think.

You are right my S15 does require some tough love, how to deliver it without alienating him completely is my problem.

As for dating

I'm not saying I want to date now, I am saying I want to get to a position where when I'm ready I can. Staying M to a man who clearly doens't want me whilst sticking to my own principles doesn't offer me that opportunity. As I don't intend to force the issue by joining dating agencies it may never happen but I at least want the ability to be open to. I don't want to be D but I've given this M my all, I've given H every opportunity to change his mind. He has not looked back once. He has not acknowledged my efforts once. He just keeps on inflicting pain by whatever method he can comjure up. Do I really need to put up with that? Aren't I worth more than that? I think I am.