Alison, oh dear Please don't confuse issues with your son with those with your H. Yes H should be supporting you in dealing with your wayward son but he isn't. Is the £15.00 worth this aggravation and stress to you? Your son is the problem here and requires some tough love! I have said before he plays you and he is now in his element cos he has you and H at each others throats so to speak. I believe you can put a password on your phone to "lock it", easier than changing the locks.If your H is not going to enforce discipline on your son then it's up to you to do it. I am sorry but thats a fact otherwise in a few years from now you are going to have one very disrespectful and out of control child. No more being nice to son because you feel guilty he left home. As for dating-hmmm I know you are just lashing out when you have calmed down you will have rethunk! I hope your week end gets better what you got planned?