When life just hits you

[missmyfriend]

Cinders, I am finding tears in my eyes as I read your post. You show such real love. You are such a genuine person.

I pray my wife can find it back to be that person with our children, even if we are never together again. As I read about how you are letting Mother's Day go so you can give once again to your family, I think of the scripture where "her children will rise up and call her blessed!" So many of you incredibly, awesome women grace this site, I am overwhelmed.

With the ones we love who are so far removed with reality, some are closer to their children while others see them as an inconvenience. My W falls into the latter camp and I have trouble coping with that. It is bad enough that I don't have my W close to me anymore, but to see my children, daily, realize that they don't come 1st, 2nd, 3rd in my Ws new life. They know that my W makes time for them when she has to. I don't like saying that out loud or to others because I feel like I am betraying my promises.

Cinders, for me, I think it hurts so much worse that she is "finished" with them more than she is finished with me. I usually do not interfere but I did it for the kids sake and my Ws as well. I encouraged our children and my W to get together this weekend for Mother's Day. I said she could have the whole weekend but she is only taking advantage of a couple of hours today (taking them to an amusement park) and for Brunch tomorrow.

How can a mom lose her desire to be with her children?