Thanks everyone for your thoughts and opinions,I think braveheart said it best though.She knows she did some things wrong as did I but she thinks I would never be able to forgive her and maybe I couldnt.I do know there is a lot of resentment there and it would be difficult and what she has is easier then what she would have to deal with to reconcile.I think they will be engaged to be married soon anyway so its probably best that I admit defeat and heal my wounds.
Whodat, the problem with that is, how long do you think they will last? I know its of no concern to you, but if she is that unhappy, why would she marry this person? People who take off and get a divorce and seek happiness with another person will do ANYTHING to make people think they have made the right choice, even if its getting re-married to someone they know won't work. I have a friend of mine that I work with who is in a similar situation, from the female perspective. She was always heavy, she had the surgery, lost a lot of weight, decided she was unhappy, got a divorce, ran around and partied, met this guy who is a real ass, has been living with him for 3 years, he isn't even divorced yet. They fight like cats and dogs all the time, she looks like crap, takes anti-depressant medicine and will still swear up and down that its better than when she was married! LOL I told her that she would do anything to make people think she didn't make a mistake. She kinda looked at me and said "I hate to be wrong" Stupid, very stupid.
