I'm bowing out of this thread at this point. It seems to me that you've made up your mind...and unless you discuss having an open marriage (and he agrees to it), it's cheating plain and simple. Staying because you make more money and you could both maintain your standard of living is not noble...he would survive somehow, and so would you, and then you would both be free to move on with your lives. Unless you BOTH agree to an open marriage, it's not ok. You have lived this way for TEN years, why have you not addressed this a long time ago...why did YOU choose to live that way for ten years? After 10 years why are you now taking this stance? Really think about that. That's all I will say. Bye.
