Changing myself for myself

[Firekeeper]

the talks happened two days ago. yesterday h again said that he feels attracted to me and asked for a kiss, a hug, to have tea, if not tea than just sex

no was the answer to all. he asked to talk. i answered with a question why he thinks that talking will make any difference this time. he said that quantity will transpire into quality at some time, that it helps him to understand himself better. i told him that i think he would be better off reading a book. he said that he doesn't want to read a book. i said that it is his pride talking and that it was his pride that led him to all this destruction; and some humility helps sometime; he is not that unique and other people went the journey he is on now.

the way i talked i think got him to some realization that i am beyond the set point. no means no.

he went for a walk and then went out of town without telling me. while he was walking i put the book "not just friends" on one of the bookshelves in his room. it is gone now.