i'm in similar sitch. bomb, I don't love you in feb, I found out about affair a month later. he moved out 3 weeks ago. I know, it's like a living hell. yesterday he told me "I love her". this is after he maniputlated me to trying to get me to sign a refi on our house (he desp. needs money) by saying we could "try again". When I asked if we could start "dating" (not forcing him to come home right away), that's when I got that silent stare and then, "I can't , my 'girlfriend' would be unhappy about that. I love her" Icouldn't even hear the rest.
I know how much this sucks. It sucks so bad. but I am determined now to GAL, db, and all that stuff. there really is nothing else i can do. I did everything wrong before, begged, bargained, pleaded, everthing. doesn't work.
so now, i'm back to db 101 and must stick to it. for MY mental health. I can't live like this anymore. he has to live with the consequences of his choices. it's hard because we have a d5 and I can't just completely shut him out of my life.
I feel your pain. mc was a disaster for us (counselor was NOT pro-marriage) and we went once. I am now in counseling alone and really recommened that for you.
As they say, one day at a time (my lawyer told me this).
