Husband insists its over-what now? Please help!

[saffie]

Ali - will flip over to your thread later - my H has just come home so i need to be fairly quick on the PC at the moment

Leah, you said -

He has also said he doesnt like our lifestyle (house, mortgage, cat, dog etc). Whats that all about?!

I would hazard a guess that this is all about panic. I imagine, (and I am only guessing here), that all this stuff makes him panic about money - and also makes him feel not good enough - not a good enough provider etc. One gets into very negative thought patterns and just can't control them. When one is depressed, logic kind of goes out the window, and panic sets in - you just enter a completely different mind set.

I found the C that was attached to my local GP practice was useless. She just kept going over and over the past and firstly I didn't feel it was anonymous enough for me, ( I know a lot of people in the area I live in), and I just don't think the C's attached to the GP practices are very highly trained. I found going over the same old things each time depressed me further and made me feel all jumbled up. The C just didn't know what to do with me. I could deflect her as well which wasn't good - we just wasted each other's time.

My Clinical psychologist is a guy called Dr. Clive Long - Google him. He is based at St. Andrew's Hospital in Northampton. I hope that the DB boards leave these details up as he is a fully qualified clinical psychologist and is listed on all the professional lists. I found Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to be so good. The drugs helped me to a certain extent with my problems - I guess they balanced me - but I then needed to actually move forwards. I needed coping strategies etc.

I can put his tel No up but I don't know if it will get left up as it might be seen as advertising. I am really not trying to advertsise this guy - he just is really good. - 01604 616307.

Depending on which part of Bedfordshire you are in - ie. if Northampton is too far for you - find the professional lists that DR. Clive Long is listed on and then you will know that other people on that list are similarly qualified.

Good luck