God, you sound JUST like me, that bit where you describe it, I totally understand as thats what its like for me I really think the problem is within him, but in turn it has had a negative effect on our M. Its like he has put a wall up between us, and while we can chat about every day stuff, our 'connection' and intimacy has gone. If that makes sense?? His eyes just seems so dead. I feel that he is running away from what he thinks is the problem (me, house, etc). I can see that he really believes that his feelings have gone-but how can I turn that around
...and I dont know either !!! The thing about the dog is wierd! He doesnt want to let go really does he?? I would be very cool this afternoon, no emotion, friendly and light and act as if. I bet he may betray some emotion himself at some point. (at the end of packing, my BF burst into tears!! I didnt. I gave him a hug though). This thing about his depression being down to the guilt of leaving you is nonsense. And my BF felt that too for 3 months after he left me. But I stopped putting a guilt trip on him, stopped crying and calling him...and after a perioid of no contact, he finally faced up to the fact that his depression was his own and not about our R. Your H doesnt seem to have bottomed out yet and is still blaming the R. So yes...no emotion! No making him feel guilty! Apparently, guilt is our enemy, it stops these guys coming back. They dont want to be guilt ridden. Try and appear ok ! Good luck...
Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
