Someone on here talked about a book that really helped them when they were meeting up with their separated H for THE big talk - it's called "Crucial Conversations" and covers lots of different types of talks. I know it really helped her prepare for the 'talk' and keep herself focused and in control.

Good luck.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength