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[buenosuerte]

it's now friday night and each night since then d and i have been staying at his house, each day gets longer and longer the next day. he's trying to talk to his roomates as what to do about us moving in, but when we left today we did not leave it so well.

here's the sitch: on monday he asked d and i to go to a concert with him and friends friday night, i was like um an 8 month old out past 9 pm not in bed with loud music not a good place for her to be. he "said" i want you there, getting a babysitter not an option for either of us, i told him just to go, have fun be with his friends - mother whatever. i tell ya i'm home again with d while he's out there doing whatever he wants with no responsibility of us. i am let down, big time by this. my d broke my phone and h gave me another and had to have it flashed, he knew i was not going to pick it up, i didn't so i am unreachable. i really don't feel like talking to him, even if he says he won't have a good time knowing d and i are in a house with no a/c (phoenix high 90's) no phone and by ourselves, i'm like oh please after you have a few beers hang with your friends we are but a memory.

my problem is if he wanted to be with us as a family he would have sacrificed his concert to be with us. he asks what he's doing wrong and i just tell him, nothing thank you for being honest about what you want to do. me and d are going to live our lives differently, we'd like you with us as a family but it's cool if you're not. i told him i will not put him as the center of our worlds since we are not his. i put d in car kissed him goodbye and said have a good weekend and drove off.

i kind of expected this: when the weekend rolls around back to normal partying self for him, mehome with the kido.

so how would michele solve this one?

[buenosuerte]

update 14 may

H and I are doing well in the sense of talking and having some fun together as a family. i found out why his parents or oneof the reasons his parents have a hard case against me. they seem to think my h will mess up his business by us being back together, which in the end would mess up mfil $ since he works for my h.

as far as h and i we have not moved back together, there are financial issues around that but we are together every night for dinner and putting d to bed.

i try to keep using solution based method of solving our problems, echoed in my head are timing, talk about things when timing is good, so i've learned some about patience, sometimes i even wait a day or two to talk about serious or so i though serious things, it allows me to reallyt hink about how to approach h.

on me i have some decisions to make about work - if returning for next school year, part time, full time, and where. i keep my eye on the goal and do slip now and then but we do have shorter times between fights. for example, sunday we were so angry at one another he left my house but came back after a cool down, before days or even weeks would pass before we would speak so both he and i have grown in that res pect.