Oh, and no, I am NOT okay with "exlcusively dating until he finds a new date".
I feel so..duped and.....shocked and....hurt.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
Well, wish me luck. I am off to the karaoke place where he is supposed to show up in 1 hour 15 minutes. The vehicle he comes in will tell me a lot. Unless he comes in the truck, in which case, I won't know much of anything.
Couple of shots of 'courage in a bottle' and who knows what's going to happen. This is one of those nights where I wished I smoked. Don't worry, I'm not going to start..just saying, I sure could use a cigarette.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
Good Luck. My H & I are watching a movie, & I keep checking to see how you're doing. All the best.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I just refreshed match and he now shows as "active within 3 days". Hmmm.....last night at this time he was at a going away dinner..... I don't think the 24 hour thing is very accurate.
Well, that's no help.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
you don't need to know exactly when he checked match.
all you need to know is:
1. he made his profile active recently again. so he's looking to date again. (and he HAS checked it in the past few days) 2. he was "busy" on friday-date-nite 3. he's pulled this kind of **** on you before.
Last edited by Dom R; 05/10/0804:10 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
Trixi, I imagine you are already gone... but be careful. You yourself pointed out, what good can come of it? I'm not saying you are wrong to want to know, or that you don't have a reason to be concerned, or upset. Just make sure you think about the consequences before you act.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Thanks you guys. Well, I went to the bar and he showed up just a few minutes after 10. By then, I had had a few drinks. Basically, I was acting odd with him, asked if had stayed home(yes) and when he asked what my deal was I told him I noticed he had been active on match recently and that since we were supposed to be dating exclusively, I thought he should deactivate the acct. He said "ok. done." (good) and then "sheesh. I can't believe you were checking up on me." (uh oh) He ordered nachos (NEVER does that, so he was obviously hungry) and I said "I could have brought dinner over" and he said "No. I was fine."
He was NOT his friendly self. He was sort of distant. After an hour, he says he is going home. I was pouty and he said "I'm staying over tomorrow night." I SO wish I hadn't been drinking and feeling insecure. I "talked" him into coming over and watching an episode of the Office (and whatever.) He said he would come over but then he had to leave to go home. (??) He came over and dug thru my fridge looking for more food and eating different leftovers. He obviously did not eat dinner. He DID drive the Mustang. I mentioned that, and he said "I bought her to drive her; it's nice out and I love driving her." I think the food thing convinces me that he wasn't out.
Yadda yadda yadda; fall asleep for awhile and then he gets up to use the restroom and then gets starts getting dressed. I was visibly confused and he said "I told you I was going. I have to get up early." Discussed what time he should be over tomorrow night and he drove off into the sunset (so to speak.) It makes no sense since he has stayed over before when he had to (truly) get up early to go do something.
It's falling apart (again) and I don't even really know why. I guess it's easiest for me to say that I pressured him too much by asking what the deal was when we returned home, sighing and now tonight. Simply brilliant. I could just kick myself.
So, there you have it. Supposedly he will get rid of the match profile; but he is mad I was checking up on him. He is distant. I am confused.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
