Cake eating or progress?

[Dom R]

so showing up with something to help him relax would be VERY unwelcome. AND, when we hung up, things were VERY tense between us-- Clearly, he is feeling pressured by me and is backing off.

no, i'd say "he's feeling guilty and worried that you'd CATCH HIM".

i say you have the perfect reason to go over there.
it's not a "nice" reason. but it's a perfectly valid one at this point.

Tell him the truth, if you cant think of a nice reason.

Say that you know about his match account and you wanted to see if he was with anyone.
tell him when you GET THERE.